Dr. Chopra is the founder of the Chopra Foundation and Chopra Global. He is a world-renowned pioneer in integrative medicine and personal transformation, and has written over 90 books. TIME magazine has described him as one of their 100 most influential people.

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Deepak Chopra

<hr><h4 style="text-align:justify;">DEEPAK CHOPRA speaks with DAAJI about the role Yoga has to play in bringing about world peace. This is an excerpt from their conversation broadcast on International Day of Peace, September 21, 2020. That documentary is available at: <a href="https://heartfulness.org/en/international-day-of-peace/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://heartfulness.org/en/international-day-of-peace/</a>.&nbsp;</h4><hr>Daaji: Namaste, Sir.DC: Daaji, it is a great honour to be with you and celebrate World Peace Day. I was thinking, as I was getting online to speak with you, of the basic Yamas and Niyamas that are the basis of all of our yogic tradition. And if you look at the Yamas in order, it all starts with ahimsa. Ahimsa is the first Yama, which means to be established in non-violence.&nbsp;The great sage Patanjali says that when we are firmly established in peace-consciousness ourselves, then all beings around us cease to feel hostility. So you are actually to do nothing but be peaceful yourself, and bring the presence of peace wherever you go. If you do that, then people around you will feel peaceful, not by what you say, not even by what you do, but just by your presence.&nbsp;That is the great gift of Patanjali, when he says the first lesson of Yoga is to start with ahimsa. Then you start with satya. Satya is truth. When you have satya added to ahimsa, you automatically have asteya. Asteya means you don’t covet anything, because you are totally fulfilled within yourself. And from that experience of asteya, non-stealing, non-covetousness, non-jealousy, comes what Patanjali calls aparigraha, which means detachment from the fruits of action, which ultimately leads to the best use of your energy, your vital energy, your vital force.&nbsp;And so, on World Peace Day, I think it is very appropriate for us to celebrate the great yogic traditions of India that also talk about the Niyamas – cleanliness, shaucha; fulfilment that comes from self-study or swadhyaya; and the effulgence that comes from the radiation of peace and ultimately results in what we call the oneness with our Source.So Yoga is that tradition, and everything that we are doing in this world is the opposite of Yoga. We are coming from the fragmented mind, from the ego mind, which makes us look at ourselves as separate beings, and looks at the world also as separate, when we are one with it. As you know, one of the greatest Mahavakyas is “Tattvamasi” – whatever I see, I see pure consciousness; whatever I see, I see the Divine; whatever I see, I see the Infinite. It doesn’t matter what it is; it could be a cup of coffee that is the modified expression of the Infinite.<hr>&nbsp;<hr>Bring the presence of peace wherever you go. If you do that, then people around you will feel peaceful, not by what you say, not even by what you do, but just by your presence.&nbsp;<hr><hr>So, on World Peace Day, I think we should just be peace, we should speak peace, we should create peace, we should express peace, and we should celebrate peace. If enough of us do this, then we will have a peaceful world, because I have seen enough peace activists, even Nobel Prize winners in peace, and they are not peaceful. So peace can only by created by those who are peaceful, just like love can only be expressed by those who have received or given love. So, we have to be the change we want to see in the world, as Mahatma Gandhi is supposed to have said. And if there is a critical mass of that, and that’s why we are having this conversation, then hopefully we can reach a more peaceful, just, sustainable, healthier, and joyful world.Right now, the world is very divisive, very quarrelsome, all within ideological conflicts. All the conflicts, whether it is communism, socialism, capitalism … these are good ideas meant for humanity, but human beings corrupt them, because they come from “self,” selfishness, basically. Me, mine. Everything is me and mine.&nbsp;Now that we are celebrating World Peace Day with this great heritage that you represent, of India, then it is possible, by changing these conversations and having a critical mass participating in these conversations, that we can be the change we want to see in the world.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/yoga_peace2_08540fd31b.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-12T05:13:31.006Z" alt="yoga-peace"><hr>So, that is why I am so happy to speak to you. As you rightly said, meditation is the key to cut the veil of ignorance. Having gone through some of your material, I realize that you are very focused on what you call heart meditation, and recently there is a lot of research showing that your heart is actually also like your brain, except your heart is more contextual, more relational, more holistic. It doesn’t have a win-lose orientation, it is intuitive, it is eavesdropping on a larger non-local mind, you might say.&nbsp;You know, the heart sets the coherence for the whole body. If one puts attention on the heart, meditates from the heart, even reads into the heart, or just has awareness of the heart as the seat of love, compassion, joy and equanimity, just that experience immediately changes heart wave coherence. It changes what we call heart rate variability. It creates a coherent electromagnetic – what some people would call an aura – but it is actually an energy field that extends about six feet, which can be detected. But actually, it extends indefinitely into space-time, we just can’t detect with our instruments beyond six to seven feet.<hr>&nbsp;<hr>If one puts attention on the heart, meditates from the heart, even reads into the heart, or just has awareness of the heart as the seat of love, compassion, joy and equanimity, just that experience immediately changes heart wave coherence.&nbsp;<hr><hr>Everything that you experience and emanates from the heart is pervading all of space-time. This is the master oxylator of the body. We have a pacemaker here, a hundred cells that work together to make the heartbeat, and then that pacemaker sets pace-making everywhere – the brain, all the cells, ultimately the total body, which is the electromagnetic activity of the universe, which is the universal electromagnetic activity.&nbsp;So, in today’s science, they identify four basic forces: electromagnetism, which is what we are using right now to have this communication, then the strong and weak nuclear interactions at the subatomic level, which are actually the same as the electromagnetic emanations of your body. They are the same, there is no difference. And finally gravity, which people don’t fully understand – how to correlate gravity with these forces and elements of the universe. Right now, people are thinking gravity is just the curvature of space-time, and is not actually a fundamental force, in the same way as quantum forces.&nbsp;<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/yoga_peace3_aefd64a4ed.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-12T05:13:30.996Z" alt="yoga-peace"><hr>Even with all that, and leaving all the science aside, Patanjali, you, and the great Indian heritage are teaching the world: Even without knowing the science, as science is just a mapping of experience, we know that we actually feel through the heart. Even if you translate the four Yogas – Raja Yoga, Bhakti Yoga, Jnana Yoga and Karma Yoga – it begins with Raja Yoga, which is meditation. And then Bhakti Yoga comes second, because out of that meditation comes the feeling that we call love and compassion and joy and equanimity. And then the third thing that happens automatically is the shift in identity, so Jnana Yoga also comes afterwards – identity. “Who am I?” “What am I?” Am I just this skin-encapsulated ego dragging a bag of flesh and bones, or am I the source of all experience? Jnana Yoga comes third. And finally comes Karma Yoga. You know, Karma Yoga is not a forced action. It is spontaneous. If we are established in ahimsa, then everything is spontaneous. We don’t have to do anything. Being is enough.<hr>&nbsp;<hr>The heart is the seat not only of consciousness, but of intelligence. And the heart’s intelligence is superior to the brain’s intelligence, and to any other intelligence.&nbsp;&nbsp;<hr><hr>So this is where the great contribution of luminaries like yourself helps us, because we can understand that the heart is the seat not only of consciousness, but of intelligence. And the heart’s intelligence is superior to the brain’s intelligence, and to any other intelligence. Blaise Pascal, the French philosopher, said, “The heart has its reasons, which reason does not know.” The heart is the seat of ultimate, infinite computing, that is being downloaded from Brahman itself.So, for that reason, I think what you are doing, contributing with heart meditation, and bringing peace to the world, is such a great thing that I am very honored and privileged to support this event.Daaji: Thank you.DC: Thank you.<hr>&nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Conversation with DEEPAK CHOPRA Illustrations by GAYATRI PACHPANDE &nbsp;</h4>&nbsp;<hr>

Yoga & peace

<h4>DEEPAK CHOPRA was interviewed in Kanha Shanti Vanam on July 2, 2023, by EKTA BOUDERLIQUE. After an illustrious career bridging health, science, and spirituality, he tackles the big questions of consciousness, existence, truth, and human evolution, and challenges science to re-assess the questions it is asking.</h4><h4>Human evolution</h4>Q: So hello and welcome, sir. It is such a pleasure and honor to have you among us in Kanha Shanti Vanam. You are the face of health, not just in America, but also here in India. You have shown Ayurveda to the world. We are very happy you are here. How has your experience of Kanha been?DC: It has been extraordinary. First of all, I’ve never seen so many people meditating together in such a beautiful setting. And everyone here is dedicated to service and sadhana. You have all three things needed for enlightenment – sewa, sangha, and sadhana [service, community, and practice]. You don’t need anything more.Q: Thank you, sir, for saying that. Our efforts have been in that direction, and we are happy when people visit. Even more so, because you can give us a perspective on what could happen here. What is the potential that you see here?DC: I think if there are enough people having an authentic experience of reality, and living that experience, it will hopefully create a critical mass of consciousness over the planet, toward a more peaceful, just, sustainable, healthy, and joyful world.&nbsp;Right now, it’s not a good situation with war, terrorism, eco destruction, extinction of species, pandemics, mass migrations … you name it. Everything that’s happening is a combination that could lead to human extinction. It’s not just theoretical anymore.&nbsp;We’ve made so many advances in science and technology, everything is dependent on technology, including this conversation. Yet, that technology, in combination with a very medieval mindset of tribalism, ethnocentrism, racism, bigotry, hatred, prejudice, is devastating in its bias. Before we had regional issues, but now every issue becomes global immediately. There’s nothing that happens anywhere that doesn’t affect the whole planet.&nbsp;So if you can create a conscious community here, and replicate it elsewhere, which I believe Daaji is doing, we have the key for collective transformation.&nbsp;In the big scheme, I don’t think it makes a difference if humanity disappears. Nature has its own way of deciding what’s the next phase of evolution. Sixty-five million years ago, dinosaurs were wiped out in a matter of a week or less, and we are here because of that. So if we disappear, maybe God has better plans – human evolution hasn’t worked, so let’s try something else.Q: Yes, but I guess as part of our consciousness, it’s important that we take our responsibility seriously. Doing the right thing will leave behind a legacy.&nbsp;DC: We do what needs to be done, but we don’t control the outcome.<h4>Personal evolution</h4>Q: How do you see your own life’s journey of consciousness?&nbsp;DC: Well, I started as a very traditional medical doctor. I trained at AIIMS, the All India Institute of Medical Science in Delhi. Then I went to the US and trained in medicine, endocrinology, and neuroendocrinology. I was looking at the molecules in the brain that correspond to our emotions. And they turned out to be immunomodulators. So that led me to Mind-Body Medicine.&nbsp;It took me a while to realize that even the phrase Mind-Body Medicine is not accurate, because it implies a difference between the mind and the body. They simply have different frequencies of consciousness. The body is a particular frequency that we call perceptual activity, and the mind is another frequency that we call conceptual activity. They’re parallel and complementary activities of consciousness.&nbsp;Because of my science background, I was led ultimately to what is called the hard problem of consciousness. How do neural firings and neurochemistry create what we call experience – sensations, perceptions, images, feelings, thoughts? That’s considered to be the hard problem of consciousness in science.&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/right_question2_387a67d6b0.jpg"></figure><h4>Consciousness</h4>DC: If you Google the 125 open questions in science, number one is: What is the universe made of? The second is: What’s the biological basis of consciousness? It’s been a struggle for both philosophers and scientists, globally. Since Plato in the West, in many schools we find matter-only ontology, consciousness-only ontology, and mind and body as two separate things. But the hard problem of consciousness exists because we are asking the wrong questions.Number one, the universe is not made of anything. It’s constructed in consciousness as a perceptual activity. Number two, there is no biological basis of consciousness, because biology is an experience in consciousness. If we keep asking the wrong questions, we’ll never have the answers.&nbsp;It took me a long time to understand that our scientific model is based on something called naïve realism. Naïve realism means that we assume the world we experience is real, and objective reality corresponds to human perception. But human perception is a very narrow band of activity within a very, very limited electromagnetic spectrum. Furthermore, it’s species specific. Furthermore, it’s experienced through what we call the conditioned mind. Furthermore, it assumes matter as the ontological primitive [outside and independent of experience]. Furthermore, it’s based on the concept of subject-object split.&nbsp;As you look at these arguments, it becomes obvious that naïve realism is a convenient way of doing science and creating technology. But it has nothing to do with truth. You can create virtual reality (VR), and extend the VR we already exist in. Actually, it’s already VR; now we don’t call it Maya, but it is Maya. Maya simply means matter. The words Maya, matter, mother, matrika, meter, time, and music, all come from one idea that what we see or experience, including our own body, including our own brain, is an activity of consciousness. There is no brain producing consciousness. Consciousness is modifying itself into mind brain universe.&nbsp;And while it’s doing that as a human experience, it’s also doing it as a butterfly experience, as a snake experience, as a chameleon experience; every species has its own universe. Then you get within the species, within our species. You have your own universe, and I have my own universe.&nbsp;So, if you walk around New York City or Grand Central Station, each human being is an observation deck for the universal experience, for a particular point of view in space-time. Furthermore, it is an impermanent point of view, because by the time you perceive something, it’s already over. By the time I hear your conversation, or even look at you, that which I looked at is no longer there. Everything, everybody you see is a ghost, and the collective universe that we experience is a collective dreamscape. This is what it means to be asleep, the stage of ignorance. And the goal of spiritual awakening is to wake up from this.&nbsp;Wittgenstein, the Austrian philosopher, said we are asleep, our life is a dream, but once in a while we wake up enough to know that we’re dreaming. So waking up is very crucial, but you can’t wake up if you have the wrong assumption that matter creates consciousness. You’ll never solve that.&nbsp;Matter, atoms, molecules, space, time, force fields, gravity are human names. Who created the word gravity? Human beings. Who created the words atoms, molecules? Human beings. But before they said, “This is a molecule,” there was an experience. And that experience was a perceptual and cognitive activity in consciousness. So before I call this “a glass of water,” it is a sensation, a touch, a taste, a smell, a sound. And then, as humans, we call this combination of sensations a glass of water. We call this a body, we call this the Sun, that the Moon. We made it up, just like we made up latitude, longitude, Greenwich Mean Time, nation states, money.&nbsp;Q: Actually that’s good news, because if that is the truth then we can switch it around. And that’s what I think meditation pertains to.DC: Correct. You can be free of your constructs and create new ones, upgrade the illusion.Q: That’s fantastic.&nbsp;<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/right_question3_af76856c04.jpg"></figure><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">The body is a particular frequency&nbsp; that we call perceptual activity,&nbsp; and the mind is another frequency that we call conceptual activity. They’re parallel and complementary activities of consciousness.</h4><hr><h4>Self-awareness</h4>Q: What message would you have for young people? A lot of young people join our programs and draw counsel.DC: If you substitute the word “spirituality” with the word “self-awareness,” then ask yourself: What is the self? What is awareness? Then ask yourself: Am I the changing body, or an activity in the self or awareness? Am I the changing mind, or an activity in the self or the awareness? The only thing that doesn’t change is the awareness. When I say, “I was five years old, 10 years old, 15 years old,” the “I” that says that doesn’t change. Everything else changes. Self and awareness go together; there is no self that is independent of awareness.&nbsp;When scientists look at anything, they assume existence, whatever existence, we say, “There is existence.” Of course, existence is a mystery, but the awareness of existence is a bigger mystery. Because if there was no awareness of existence, then there is no existence. So awareness and existence go together. They’re the same thing. Now you add another word to it, truth. Then you have the answer. Truth, awareness, existence are the same thing. We call it sat-chit-ananda, and they’re inseparable, the same thing.&nbsp;When you speak of God, people have their own image, unfortunately, and then they go to war about that image. Even when you speak of the soul, some people roll up their eyes: “What do you mean? What is the soul? Where is the soul? All we have is a brain.” So, I feel that it’s easier in today’s world to speak of self-awareness, and inquiry into self-awareness, what we call Atma Vichara. Then, the ramification of spiritual practices is both Atma Vichara and Atma Darshan [true vision of the Self] at the same time. One is not possible without the other, because who or what is doing the vichara of themselves?Q: I think we could continue for a long time. But you have a flight to catch, and we are extremely happy to have these snippets.DC: I am really thrilled to be here. I’m being very honest with you, I have stayed away from the institutionalized guru kingdoms of India. But Daaji is an exception. He doesn’t even call himself a guru. He’s very humble, and he is very devoted to service, which is extraordinary.Q: We’re very thankful, because it’s not just the time but the kind of time you’ve given. It’s extremely encouraging and empowering for young people and take a few cues on how they can lead their lives.DC: Leave them with one message: “Be the change you want to see in the world,” in the words of Mahatma Gandhi.Q: Absolutely. And you’ve done that. Thank you so much.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Truth, awareness, existence are the same thing.&nbsp; We call it sat-chit-ananda, and they’re inseparable, the same thing.</h4><hr>

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Ranked #1 in men’s tennis in Asia in the under-14 category; the first player from India to be included in the World Junior Team; co-founder of the Shaishya Tennis Academy, Gujarat, India; these are some of the laurels that Devinder Singh Bhusari has feathered in his cap. In addition to being a very successful tennis player, this young prodigy also received an MBA degree from one of the premier B-schools in India. What keeps him inspired and grounded amidst success and his current work is meditation.

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Devinder Singh Bhusari

&nbsp;<hr>&nbsp;<h4 style="text-align:justify;">DEVINDER SINGH BHUSARI made it big on the international tennis circuit. In 1999 he was ranked Asian no. 1 in the under 14 category, and he has the distinction of being the first ever Indian tennis player to be invited by the International Tennis Federation (ITF) to be a part of the World Junior Team to the USA in the same year. But then, as a young adult, he chose to take his career in tennis in a different direction. Today, as part of a team of experts, Devinder successfully coaches young talent in the Shaishya Tennis Academy in Gujarat, India, and offers counseling to students and their parents. This strengthens them in the sport and grooms them to face the challenges of life at large.</h4><hr>Q: What attracted you to tennis, Devinder? What led you to pursue it as a full-time vocation?DSB: My journey as a tennis player, even the career that I am pursuing now, started because of my father. He wanted me to be a sportsperson. He had wanted to be a cricketer himself, so in a way he wanted to live his dream through me. And he wanted me to be a cricketer, and like a lot of other Indian kids my journey also started with cricket at the age of three-and-a-half. He motivated me, and later on I went into athletics and then to tennis. I started playing tennis well, and I played competitive tennis at the international level. I think in those years growing up, tennis and academics were the only two things that I did.Later on during my postgraduate days, as I was trying to figure out what I was really good at or what I would like to do, my heart guided me to realize that I really got a kick out of training and mentoring others. So after I did my major in human resources, I combined the two things that I really wanted to do: training and mentoring young kids and adults and tennis. That’s why today I am in this profession of tennis coaching and tennis counseling.Q: Did you ever feel pressured, or was there any clash between what you wanted to do and what your father wanted you to do?DSB: I was motivated and inspired, actually. He used to put pictures and newspaper articles in front of me, or we would watch cricket matches together on television, and I would see the laurels that sportspersons got for their country and for their friends and families. My father used to say, “People usually come into this world and do something just to lead a normal life, get married, have children and so on. Your life should be different. You should become something.” So that message stuck in my mind – that he wanted me to be different, he wanted me to be a sportsperson. I liked sports so there was never a clash between what I wanted to do and what my father wanted me to do, until I was 21 or 22. I guess since birth I was just very obedient to my parents!But at the age of 21 or 22 I had the question: What do I want to do? And as I already explained, at the age of 22 I stopped playing competitive tennis and started exploring what I really wanted in life. After that things changed, I changed – not radically, but I found a balance between what my father wanted for me in life and what I want, and kind of combined the two. I’m leading a happy life right now!During my MBA, I secured a placement with Indian Oil Corporation. My parents were super happy but I was dissatisfied; I wanted to do more. My father, especially, wasn’t in favor of me quitting the job. It took six months to convince him to let me get into the field of tennis coaching.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/Bhusari2_ab0b44d0af.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-04T06:44:20.511Z" alt="Bhusari2">&nbsp;<hr>&nbsp;Q: Oh, beautiful. So how did you go about finding that balance?DSB: It was very important to know what my strengths were. What is it that I really wanted to do in life? I had started practicing meditation at the age of 19, while I was doing my Bachelor of Commerce. Meditation helped me to be in touch with myself. Of course it helped me on the tennis court, but it also helped me off the tennis court, because I came to know who I really am, what are my strengths, and what is it that I really like doing.At that point in time I knew a lot of people who were really struggling with the question of what to do in life, whereas in my case, the more I came to know about myself, the more options actually started opening up. So I never felt lost, or had the question, “What am I going to do next?” In fact I knew that I could do this, or this, or this. It was all about choosing the best option. So that was the beauty of meditation.Q: What is tennis counseling? How do you do it in Shaishya?DSB: When I started, I joined my own coach, Shrimal Bhatt, and began coaching with him. At the same time I founded a small firm called Samasam, which means ‘balance’ in Sanskrit. Within that I incorporated the idea of tennis counseling. Of course now I do counselling and coaching at Shaishya Tennis Academy.&nbsp;<hr>&nbsp;&nbsp;<hr><h5 style="text-align:center;">What I tell my students is that at the end of the day it’s just a sport, it’s just a game. So when I counsel the kids on the mental aspect, there’s a whole set of values that I bring in.</h5>&nbsp;<hr><hr>In tennis, the difference between players at the highest level is a mental one. It is not so much physical, it is not so much technical or tactical as mental. Experience had taught me that very few people actually train kids mentally. And to train kids mentally, you don’t need to necessarily do it on a tennis court; it can be done off the tennis court, it can be done in an office or a classroom. So I started tennis counseling. In fact, if I look back, most of the students who have come back to me for tennis coaching are the ones who actually took counseling from me. I counsel the kids, the players, and I counsel the parents also on a variety of topics like the mental aspect, planning their tennis and tournament schedules, and even queries regarding their academics. So it’s more like being a tennis doctor.Q: Are there any specific tools or steps that you use, or a curriculum that you follow, while counseling your students and their parents, especially on the mental front?DSB: That’s a great question. Mostly people look at a game like tennis as a physical sport. But it came to me with experience that, at the end of the day, it is largely a mental sport. I know so many kids who play well during practice, but in a match they just fizzle out; they don’t perform well. So how to train these kids on these mental aspects?What I tell my students is that at the end of the day it’s just a sport, it’s just a game. So when I counsel the kids on the mental aspect, there’s a whole set of values that I bring in. The better character and perspective the child has towards life and towards sport, the better they’ll do in tournaments and be able to handle the pressure. The pressure in tennis, and even in life, comes from misdirected perspectives or misdirected ambitions. Tennis is not about winning or losing; a tennis match should be able to bring out the best in the child. I think that is also what challenges in life are all about. So in counseling sessions, all the time we keep reflecting back to what life is all about, and how tennis is just a miniature real-life situation without the real-life consequences. I am speaking about tennis, but it applies to all sports.Q: Can you share some practical examples of drastic changes in students through this type of counseling?DSB: There was an instance where one boy would get very angry on the court, and in certain cases he did not have the adequate work ethic or willpower to do the exercises. So we started meditation sessions with him during the last four months, and there is actually a clear improvement. The graph in terms of his efforts and work ethic is only moving upwards. He has become so particular about the way he does things, we can see him motivated, and he plays at the international level. He is a 16-year-old boy playing at the level of international juniors.I have also been fortunate to work with a couple of other players, one of whom is a national champion. This boy was in 10th grade, and in one of the unit tests leading up to the final board exams he failed, and his parents were pretty concerned regarding his future and what to do. So first I spoke to the parents without the child, and then we brought the child in and worked out a timetable. We worked out the priorities, keeping the right perspective and trying to find a balance between his academics and tennis. The boy finally did well in his board exams, and then he actually went on to win a national title and a couple of back-to-back international titles last year.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/bhusari3_fcaf6db4df.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-04T06:45:52.218Z" alt="bhusari3">Q: That’s fantastic. So do you use meditation as a tool regularly in your counseling program in the academy?DSB: No, not for every child because most of the children who come to me are less than 15 years of age. Lately there is a relaxation technique that we have been using on the court sometimes for the kids after the sessions, to help them relax, to help them focus. A lot of kids really like it, and some of them apply the technique on their own.In fact the reason I took to meditation was that in the middle of a match I would get so many thoughts. Some of them were irrelevant, unnecessarily putting me under pressure. I think the best way to tackle pressure in a tennis match, or in life, is to get your thinking clear, and that is what meditation essentially does. Once you are able to regulate your mind in a positive direction, most of the things get sorted by themselves.Q: What changes did you observe on and off the court once you started meditating?DSB: A lot of things! Some of the small things were: better control over my emotions, clearer focused thinking, precision, and better efficiency in whatever needs to be done. So that’s at the lower level. But at a higher level, you need to have a right perspective towards everything. So I keep talking to the parents and to the children about what is the right perspective towards tennis. And the right perspective is to take it is as a game. There are challenges involved, and the challenges should make us better as a person, as a human being.So meditation has given me the right perspective on life, as to what life is all about. And once you have the right perspective, it puts all the other facets or all the other parts of life in proper place. You are able to prioritize very well. I do have a lot of duties, and meditation helps me to stay centered, focused, and I am happy and enjoying life.<h5 style="text-align:justify;">To be continued.</h5><hr>&nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Interviewed by MEGHANA ANAND</h4>&nbsp;<hr>

The mental side of the game - part 1

<hr><h4 style="text-align:justify;">Ace tennis player and coach DEVINDER SINGH BHUSARI continues to share his insights on the right perspective to sport. Here he talks about how to manage stress and pressure on and off court, and brings a whole new dimension to the art of competing and the role of parents in encouraging their children to accomplish their dreams.</h4><hr>Q: What does health and fitness mean to you?DSB: One of the best parts of my journey in Shaishya is that I also deal with the coaching of adults. By adults I mean anyone who is over 18 and who is learning or playing tennis just for the social or fitness part of it. I see so many people take to sport for fitness and wellness – to keep the body fit. When I say ‘fitness’ or ‘wellness’, there is of course the physical part; you exercise your whole body to ensure that you are able to use it very well throughout the day. The other part of wellness, which people often miss out, is the mental or the emotional part. I see so many players who come to us in the morning to play a competitive set and if they lose they are in a bad mood throughout the day. And actually they play tennis to start off the day in a good mood. So these are misplaced priorities, you know, misdirected ambitions.If you watch tennis matches, sometimes you will see players with a frown on their face and clenched muscles. You can see the tension written all over their faces. I keep telling my students, “Why can’t you sing a song between points?” or “Why can’t the racquet become a guitar for a moment?” Why can’t you maintain a sense of humor in the middle of a match?<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/mentalside2_2_1_6d8ce2f9bc.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-04T10:39:02.195Z" alt="mentalside2"> Q: That’s such a beautiful perspective, especially towards sport. Can you elaborate?DSB: When we talk off-court, the kids who come to me for counseling share that they feel a lot of pressure. Normally the fear is of losing. So one of the ways they know they are handling the pressure, fear or nervousness well on court, is if they can maintain humor, if they can smile. The same applies to life also. In life, too, we have our share of challenges. Can we smile through them, accepting them cheerfully? So I tell my students, “In the middle of matches, can you smile? Or for a few seconds why don’t you sing a song under your breath? Because if you can maintain that perspective in the middle of the match, we know that you are handling pressure well. You are just being yourself, smiling your way through it.” That’s what life is all about, isn’t it? Accepting things cheerfully with a smile, even when they are tough. And if these kids are going to learn it here at such a young age, they will be very well prepared for life – which is the beauty of any sport. It prepares you for life.Q: Well, stress is synonymous with sport today all over the globe, and this is such a lovely perspective – to keep it light and humorous. Is there any other tip that you can share to cope with the stress and pressure of competition and stay cool while playing tennis or any other sport?DSB: To answer this question I would like to go back a little … My father used to give me a lot of books and say, “Treat these books as your coaches.” So I used to read a lot, and two or three books have stayed with me. One especially stood out, and that is The Inner Game of Tennis. It dives deep into your personality, what is happening inside of you, the awareness that you should have while playing a match. I picked it up from an old bookstore on one of my birthdays and it shaped me; and I call it ‘The Bible of Teaching and Learning Tennis’.Q: Wow! Who is the author?DSB: It is by W. Timothy Gallwey. The author himself was a tennis player and the book was a bestseller. He then went on to found the Inner Game Institute (www.theinnergame. com), and subsequently to write other books called The Inner Game of Work, The Inner Game of Music with Barry Green, and The Inner Game of Golf. It all actually started for him with tennis. Another great book is The Mental Game – Winning at Pressure Tennis by James E. Loehr, who is a pioneer in sports psychology. Some of the things that I have shared today with you regarding the right perspective are from this book, and I share them in my counseling sessions. I have developed lesson plans for a curriculum, for group and individual counseling, from these books and also from my own experience, and when any child comes to me with a particular problem I have material ready to talk about.Now coming back to your question of handling stress, what I have found to be true is that we need some amount of stress or nervousness or pressure, which is positive and which is required to get things done. For example, if there are no deadlines no work can happen. If there were no exams, many kids would not study. And if there were no matches, a lot of kids may not think of improving themselves. So this little bit of pressure is required to get things going. Some amount of it shows that they care. But many kids are happy if they win and sad if they lose. I think that is the wrong equation. Not equating winning with happiness needs to be constantly reinforced, because parents and others will be happy if they win. If they lose they think something is wrong. How do we ensure that the kids are still happy even when they lose?Most stress comes because once they enter the court their whole focus is on winning the match, proving, “I am better than the opponent.” But there have been so many cases where I have won a tennis match and have not felt good about it because I didn’t play well. So I keep telling the kids, “If you’ve won a match, it only tells you that on that day you played better than the other person. It does not mean you are better than the other person. There may be other days when your opponent plays better, so you have to face that too.” So all this comes down to the fact that you are not approaching the sport with the right perspective.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/mentalside2_3_d7c2809a40.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-04T10:40:09.713Z" alt="mentalside2"><hr>At the end of it I ask them to remember that it’s just a game, and you play it for fun, fitness and a lot of other benefits, like better concentration and other physical abilities. Once they remember that it remains the base, and all the negative consequences and complexities they develop because of the sport will go away. Then they will start enjoying the sport a lot. I mean you can be a champion yet not enjoy the sport. You might as well be a happy person, maybe not playing at a high level, but that’s completely okay. And if you can play at a high level, always keeping a smile on your face, there’s nothing like it. That’s the best!Q: What is the role of ambition in achievement and excellence?DSB: In Human Resource Management we have a theory of external motivation vis-àvis internal motivation. When we are children, any example that motivates us to do better, to excel, is good, for example, seeing someone holding a trophy. But it’s very clear for me when I play a match, that if I enter with positive emotions like the desire to excel, to play my best, I will also not feel a lot of pressure because I am positively motivated. I am negatively motivated when all I want to prove is that I am better than the other person. So if ambition is about being number 1 – winning this tournament, winning this trophy – if it’s about ranking, it is going to put a lot of pressure on the child, which in turn can lead to a lot of negative emotions like anger, frustration, nervousness and everything that goes with it. This is also what the sports psychologists say.Luckily, in my case, with the books The Inner Game of Tennis and The Mental Game, and with meditation, the perspective changed from outward to inward. When I look inward – and the ancient Indian literature is replete with this saying – I realize that my opponent is not someone outside me. Even on the tennis court, my opponent is not actually someone who is playing against me. If my opponent is inside me, he has to be myself: How can I better myself? How can I defeat the negative tendencies that I have within me? How do I overcome the fear and nervousness that are there within me? Because I know that if I overcome these well, I will be able to respond better to the things my outside opponent is challenging me with.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/mentalside2_4_63c5ef752b.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-04T11:04:04.649Z" alt="mentalside2"><hr>And that is where I believe aspiration comes in, because it is to become something inside and not something outside. Outside, the world will take care of itself, but if I am becoming a better human being, if I am trying to change myself every day, if I am trying to become a positive person and find ways to overcome my own negative tendencies, ensuring that I become more and more positive, more and more loving and happy on the court, that is a sportsman’s spirit. I think those kids who are happy inside and have the strength inside are the only ones who are able to show good sportsman’s spirit in the most challenging situations.Q: I’m sure that we’re going to come full circle with this question. We have been speaking throughout about the right perspective that children can have towards sport. Can you share with us your ideas about the parents’ perspective while encouraging their children in any field?DSB: Since I am also a parent of a three-year-old boy, I keep looking to this time and again. I would actually like all parents to encourage their children to develop in more than one field, honestly speaking. Academics is great, but what else? And I am not speaking just as a sportsperson right now. The initial push always comes from the parents because at a very young age the child may not have the wisdom to decide. So whether it is sports or music or dance or robotics or any of these, the initial push always comes from the parents because the child looks up to their parents. I think it’s very natural for a child to follow in their parents’ footsteps and also to make them happy.Having said this, there might be various stages that come in life. For example, as a parent you might be the one initiating this, but that doesn’t mean you will be the coach throughout. A lot of pressure comes when the child tries to meet parents’ expectations. Our job as parents is just to give them the initial push, to provide them an environment which is supportive, to support them financially, to support them wholeheartedly, even if that means investing a little time in it, and to be there for the child.You may have a vision or a dream for your child and hopefully your child will share that dream, but if they don’t, that should also be okay. Because at least that means the child is someone with their own perspective, who knows their strengths and what they want out of life. If you give them those kinds of values and raise them in the right way, the child will take proper direction and will do things that are great for them.Q: This dimension that you’ve brought to sport is really wonderful, Devinder. Is there anything else you want to add?DSB: We were talking about managing various duties, and this is one part of my life where meditation is helping me a lot. In fact, I have been struggling with this question for the last two years. A solution came by itself: doing all these duties of a Heartfulness trainer, tennis coach, counselor and a parent, fits in beautifully with meditation. Just being involved with the pursuit of the highest possible goal is taking care of a lot of other things.Q: Thank you so much, and I wish you all the very best in your sport and in your work as a mentor and trainer.DSB: Thank you, Meghana.<hr><a href="//www.heartfulnessmagazine.com/mental-side-game-part-1/">Read previous article</a>&nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Interviewed by MEGHANA ANAND</h4>&nbsp;<hr>

The mental side of the game - part 2

Divya has a background in finance and is an avid traveler as well as a professional Odissi dancer. She has lived and traveled across many countries and enjoys writing about her experiences.

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Divya Chowdhary

<h4>DIVYA CHOWDHARY manages to integrate a cultural divide in rural Texas, and learn more about herself in the process. She especially shares some useful tips for navigating multicultural conversations@work.</h4><hr>I grew up in a small town in Texas.In fact, it was so small back then that there was nothing but open fields for two hours in every direction of the town. The Indian population was negligible, so I pretty much had two choices when I moved there: either relate to my Indian background and stand out at school, or learn the ways of my American counterparts and blend right into the preteen society.&nbsp;Naturally, I tried very hard to become completely American, but unknowingly I always attached myself to my Indian identity a tad more. It meant I was taught not to question the choices of my parents and elders, and obedience was seen as a sign of respect. Although I wasn’t good at this at home (being the more rebellious child), I unconsciously gravitated towards this etiquette whenever I was at school, in social gatherings, and eventually at my workplace after I graduated college.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/but_why1_700x467_035ac16343.jpg" alt=""><a href="https://www.rawpixel.com/image/3924459">Image</a> by <a href="https://www.rawpixel.com/">rawpixel.com</a><hr>While I may have asked my parents a dozen “why’s” each day, at work I was quiet. I sought to finish the tasks at hand, not ask questions, and not question the decisions of my managers. If they wanted a PowerPoint in a certain format, maybe that meant they knew best! Who was I to suggest an alternative? I rarely offered my opinions on project workstreams. After all, I was new and wanted to be respectful of my manager.Through several years of constructive feedback, evaluations, and encouragement from various managers, I managed to work through this shell. Some folks have suggested that this was a personality change and not the impact of cultural differences. I believe otherwise. At home and with friends I was extroverted, opinionated, and energetic. I now know that I always wanted to be that same person at work, but my sense of etiquette usually stopped me. Now I know that I can respect others while still speaking up for my opinions, thoughts, and ideas.I did not fully realize how much I had changed until recently. A mid-forties Asian counterpart responded to my ideas on a conference call by saying, “You don’t know anything. You are new. Let me tell you how it is done, okay?” At first I was shocked into silence. Did he just say that I knew nothing?! Maybe I shouldn’t have spoken up. I was upset for a while, then I slowly pieced it together. First, the language barrier was at play. Maybe he didn’t mean it so harshly. Second, he could have felt undermined – after all, I was new and he had been around for twenty years. Most importantly, however, I acknowledged the cultural aspect. He came from a culture where not questioning and only listening is a sign of respect toward those more experienced. He could be unconsciously falling back into that cultural pattern, despite efforts to remain more aligned with the American workplace.This helped me not to judge him. The next time I spoke up, I framed it in a way that showed I valued his input and experience. It made a huge difference.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/but_why2_700x467_1dae01ea0b.jpg" alt=""><a href="https://www.rawpixel.com/image/3924469">Image</a> by <a href="https://www.rawpixel.com/">rawpixel.com</a><hr>Changing childhood cultural habits can take decades. The most difficult ones are those where we change for specific situations, like at work, but are expected to remain unchanged at home. Undoubtedly, it takes versatility and practice. Knowing how confusing it can be, in future when I am faced with such a conflict, I will give others the benefit of the doubt!<hr>

But why?

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 DIVYA CHOWDHARY tells us how her young niece
 helped her understand the difference between being nice and being kind. That distinction has been helpful in her
 own application of kindness.
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One of the first things my niece learned to say was, “Be nice.” Ironically, she never said it nicely. It would come
 as a strict reprimand to all of us. My sister-in-law originally taught her these words because she didn’t want her
 saying “Stop” to everything. So, when my niece felt that others were not being nice, she would yell, “Be nice!”



There were countless occasions when she would say this to me, even though I knew I was doing good by her. For
 example, when I would ask her to put away her toys, or tell her not to throw things, and she wasn’t in the mood to
 hear these requests, I was told to be nice. When my nephew threw food across the room, and I would scold him, she
 would be his shining knight in armor and reprimand me with, “Be nice.” It was hilarious at times. I knew I was
 teaching my niece and nephew things that were important and that would benefit them in the long run. It may not have
 been the “nice” thing to hear, but it was good for them. In fact, I was showing them kindness.



Although this story with my niece is a very light-hearted example of nice versus kind, it can be extrapolated into so
 many different aspects of our lives. We have been told growing up to be nice to others, but we don’t hear often
 enough that we can be kind to others. And if we do, we confuse nice with kind, even though there is a distinct
 difference that can impact relationships very differently.



I believe niceness is what we show others when we don’t stand to lose anything in the process, while kindness is what
 we show when we are ready to sacrifice something (time, energy, even another person’s feelings towards us). The
 major distinction is: Are we thinking about what is best for ourselves, or are we thinking about what is best for
 the other person?



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<h4 class="has-text-align-center">I believe niceness is what we
 show others when we don’t stand to lose anything in the process, while kindness is what we show when
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Being nice to others is easy. We can easily hold the door open in a chivalrous manner, not steal from our neighbors,
 and donate unneeded items to the local charity. We are taught to do those things, yet in none of them do we
 sacrifice our comfort or personal items. And, we walk away looking great in the eyes of others! Kindness, on the
 other hand, is a teacher staying an extra hour after school to tutor her students for free, giving helpful
 constructive criticism to someone who could benefit from the feedback, and offering your last sandwich to your
 friend who forgot his food at home when you’re still hungry. In each of those examples, kindness shines through the
 sacrifice of time, personal feelings, and comfort.



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<h4 class="has-text-align-center">Kindness is honest, selfless,
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Another way to look at it is in the types of compliments we pay to others. The first is a “nice” compliment – we
 couldn’t care less what the other person really feels, but we feel obliged to be pleasant. The second is a
 “kind” compliment – we care deeply how the other person will feel, so we feel our hearts signal to us to be
 kind.



At the core, kindness asks us to listen to our hearts, while niceness is a trained mindset. Both are important and
 have their place, and true friendships are built on both, but kindness leads in first place. Kindness is honest,
 selfless, and loving. It is fundamental to building trust, which is a building block for a fulfilling friendship.




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The difference between nice and kind

Divya is a 25-year-old medical student based in New York City. After studying business and doing her time in consulting, she is excited to combine her interests in innovation and investing with healthcare. In her free time, Divya loves to travel, play tennis, and hangout with her dog, Mika.

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Divya Rao

<h4>DIVYA RAO shares her experience taking personality tests and how the present generation’s approach to establishing relationships might help us solve problems in the future.</h4><hr>&nbsp;“Hi, my name is Rachel, I’m an Entrepreneur (ESTP), and my Zodiac sign is Virgo.”My summer program at medical school is focused on advocating for children’s health in the face of global warming. It started this week with a round of introductions, with each of us stating our names and two of our favorite personality indicators.The elderly pulmonologist who was leading our session looked slightly bemused, especially when the other physicians happily contributed their Zodiac signs and Myers–Briggs types. He laughed, stating that when he was a medical student the introductions were definitely very different. Indeed, a lot of the people in the session were skeptical about how personality tests could be important to our advocacy. The facilitator said that understanding ourselves, and each other, would lead to more impactful teamwork and, as a result, advocacy.One of my favorite (and most useful) classes at Business School was “Communication and Group Dynamics.” Professor Gartenburg would start every week by inviting us to take a personality test, often causing the group to sigh loudly and roll their eyes. At first, I too was skeptical: “How was learning my Enneagram or my NEO score going to help me tackle the colossal final project I had creeping up on me. Wasn’t my time better spent by studying for my upcoming organic chemistry test instead?”It certainly didn’t help that for my group project there was a hodgepodge of ten random students, most of whom I had never seen before. I resigned myself to just keeping my head down, doing my project as quickly as I could, and getting out of there.As our team progressed throughout the semester, we noticed that our tests were eerily coming true. Those who were idealists became frustrated when we would sit for hours in a basement looking at the practical details of implementing our study. The introverts were horrified when they were made to present in front of the Eternity Management Department.As we began to recognize the dismay of team members, instead of pointing fingers at each other or throwing accusations of not being a team player, we turned them into our assets. We were able to allocate responsibilities based on who would actually enjoy the task, for example, putting people on the presentation platform who loved talking to a crowd, having those who loved planning in charge of creating our outreach schedule, and ensuring that everyone felt supported in their roles.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/know_thyself2_700x352_f6168f7f35.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-12T05:37:47.028Z" alt="know-thyself2"><hr>The most incredible part of the class was not the fact that we were invited to present our findings to the board of the museum we were working with, but the fact that we became best friends. Despite our group being very diverse, we came out knowing each other better than we knew some of our friends.Now, one of the most powerful aspects of the personality tests is that sometimes we disagreed wholeheartedly with our results. We were, however, able to reflect on ourselves while we took the tests (even after), to see what we loved, what we hated, and what made us tick. It gave us the tools to truly understand ourselves and each other. Even though some people may laugh at the obsession we have with personality tests, journaling, or self-reflection, it is these very attributes that set us apart from previous generations.<hr><hr><h4>We may not have all the answers,&nbsp; but I truly believe our generation’s empathy, ability to self-reflect, and softness for one another and ourselves, is what will allow us to tackle all the hurdles in front of us.&nbsp;</h4><hr><hr>We may not have all the answers, but I truly believe our generation’s empathy, ability to self-reflect, and softness for one another and ourselves, is what will allow us to tackle all the hurdles in front of us. So here’s to working together for our future. From your favorite ESFP, Enneagram 3, Pisces.

Know thyself: take a personality test!

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Diya Muralishankar

<hr><h4>DIYA MURALISHANKAR shares her love of painting, baking and generally being confident in expressing herself and her feelings.</h4><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/Diya_Muralishankar_7ccd64cd7a.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-10T07:12:30.582Z" alt="you-are-your-only-competition">As teenagers, we’re plagued with questions about our existence, but all I’ve ever known for sure is that I was created to express myself freely. At some point in my childhood I picked up a crayon like every other child, the only difference being that I couldn’t put it down after that. My love for art later translated into a love for baking because I see cakes as edible art.Both of these started as random flashes of inspiration, either from a book, a movie or an incident in my life, and gradually turned into a form of self expression. But it didn’t start out great. I burned numerous batches of brownies, as well as my mother’s favorite tablecloth, and once I dyed my cupcakes a sickly shade of green so that no one could bear to eat them. My hands were stained with paint multiple times and we once extracted dried glue from my hair.With some practice, art and baking went from being mere hobbies to a way of life. I found comfort in my brush strokes and satisfaction in the happy smiles of the people who ate my goods. Having just one hobby is never enough – the world is too exciting a place for that! However, all my hobbies, including art, baking and <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/tansen-the-famous-musician" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">singing</a>, revolve around creating something from nothing, something unique that portrays my individuality.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/competition2_8832470c38.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-10T07:14:37.135Z" alt="you-are-your-only-competition">As I got older, doing all this for myself wasn’t enough, so I started hosting Bake Sales along with a couple of my friends. We raised money for a charity that helps less fortunate young women of my age to lead a life of dignity and freedom by providing them with a year’s worth of sanitary pads and hygiene products. As for my art, I started painting for my loved ones, because gifting them a painting or a sketch felt like sharing a piece of myself with them. I’d like to thank all my loved ones for keeping my artwork no matter how strange it is.My art teacher was one of the main reasons I never lost hope in my work, even in the face of high competition. He saw something in me that I didn’t, so I held on to that and trusted his judgment.Tapping into my own potential has always been challenging, because creative hobbies are often accompanied by self doubt. However, it gets easier once you realize that comparing your work with that of others is pointless. Their work reflects who they are and not who you are. Every experience in your life shapes you into the unique person that you are, so your true competition can only be with yourself, helping you learn from your mistakes to make yourself a better person.So be proud of that lopsided cake, that funky painting, because confidence is 10% work and 90% delusion.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Article by DIYA MURALISHANKAR</h4><hr>

You are your only competition

Dmitri Mendeleev

Peace@work

Donald Miller

Accept people for who they are

After many deeply-satisfying years in non-profit management, Donna spends her time blogging about the power of kindness, and always looks for ways to convey the power of stories. She believes that we can change the world through our stories, and through kindness. Her new book is called A Year of Living Kindly.

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Donna Cameron

<h4>DONNA CAMERON is the author of A Year of Living Kindly. Here she reflects on the importance of creating space between stimulus and response in everyday life, learning to master the art of the pause.</h4>“Human freedom involves&nbsp;our capacity to pause, to choose the one response toward&nbsp;which we wish to throw our weight.” —Rollo MaySome time ago, a friend happened to be looking at the huge collection of quotations I have tacked to a bulletin board covering one wall of my den. Inexplicably, she started to cry. Then she grabbed a pen from her purse and copied down this quotation from author and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl:“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”“That’s it exactly,” she explained. “Whenever I’m tempted to take a drink, I need to pause in that space between stimulus and response. If I stop and think about it, I won’t drink. If I don’t, I slip and have a drink.” I knew my friend was in AA and that sobriety was still a struggle for her.I thought about Frankl’s words and saw how many things they applied to. Not just alcohol, but overeating, smoking, spending … any number of actions we take automatically with little or no thought. We allow an addiction or a learned response to overtake our free will. And, as Frankl describes, each time we don’t give in to the reflex response, we grow and claim our own precious freedom a little more.His wise words are just as relevant to kindness. Approaching the post office not long ago, I saw a man blast his horn at a woman whose car was blocking his exit. When she didn’t move quickly, he blasted it again, and then a third time, even louder and longer.I’d like to think that if he had paused, perhaps he would have chosen a different response. Maybe he would have shrugged and looked at his watch and said, “I’ve got time.” Or maybe he would have tried for a quick tap on the horn to alert her to his car, instead of three sharp and aggressive blasts.I know I’ve been guilty of speaking sharply in response to someone else’s rudeness or bad behavior. But that’s their behavior. It becomes mine if I let their rudeness provoke me to similar conduct. I don’t have to do that. I have a choice. When I react in kind, it doesn’t improve the situation, and it doesn’t make me feel any better.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/pause2_de4f673a07.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T10:46:21.925Z" alt="pause2">I also know that when I snap back at someone (as often as not, my spouse), it’s because I’m tired, feeling overwhelmed, inadequate, or – I admit it – hungry. A timely pause can prevent me from saying or doing something I’ll later regret. It maintains harmony. A timely pause enables me to adjust my course and be the person I want to be. It’s one of those lessons we learn and relearn over and over, until finally the pause becomes the automatic response.<hr><h5 style="text-align:center;">A pause may give way to understanding; it may silence hurtful words; it may avert a broken heart. Instead of speaking or acting in instant response, taking the time to pause and think about what I want my response to activate – and why – has been transformative.</h5><hr>There’s a reason why our mothers used to tell us to stop and count to ten when we got angry. It’s the power of the pause. There are things that need to be said and things that don’t need to be said. If we pause to think before we speak, we generally know the difference.Rotarians have the right idea. Rotary International – the service organization focused on human rights around the world – has a four-question test that helps members decide whether and how to act or speak. Before responding, they consider:Is it the truth?Is it fair to all concerned?Will it build goodwill and friendship?Will it be beneficial to all concerned?If the answer to any of these questions is no, they keep silent. Wise people, those Rotarians. Politicians could learn a lot from them.There is enormous power in something as simple as a pause. It allows us to delay long enough to decide if the action we’re contemplating will really get the result we want. Sometimes, when we hit pause, we recognize that we should make that pause permanent and simply do nothing, say nothing. The pause gives us the gift of grace.There is another time when the pause is a gift we offer ourselves – a gift of appreciation. Next time you perform an act of kindness, or you are the beneficiary of one, or you simply witness a kindness, pause and notice all the good things you are feeling. A pause allows us to acknowledge the importance of kindness in our lives, and to reaffirm the choice we have made to walk the path of kindness.I would put the power of the pause up against the power of the Hoover Dam. It’s that big. A pause may give way to understanding; it may silence hurtful words; it may avert a broken heart. Instead of speaking or acting in instant response, taking the time to pause and think about what I want my response to activate – and why – has been transformative. In the space of that brief pause, I might totally change my reaction, or perhaps decide not to respond at all. That pause has always guided me to a better place.A pause is not a vacant space. It’s a place of enormous potential and growth. It’s where we choose who we will be in this moment, and the next.Kindness in Action:Can you recall a situation where pausing before responding might have brought about a better outcome? Are there times when you know you are most likely to respond sharply or unkindly – such as when you are tired or frightened? Would a well-timed pause be welcome here? Set an intention to pause the next time your buttons are pushed. And the next time you experience or witness a kindness, pause to notice how it makes you feel.Reprinted with permission from the author.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/livingkindly_8f059a2c94.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T10:47:01.216Z" alt="livingkindly"><a href="https://ayearoflivingkindly.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://ayearoflivingkindly.com/</a><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Article by DONNA CAMERON</h4><hr>

The power of the pause

<h4>DONNA CAMERON is the author of A Year of Living Kindly. In this chapter from her book, she explores the significance of gratitude in daily life.</h4><h5 style="text-align:center;">“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life&nbsp; is thank you, it will be enough.” Meister Eckhart</h5>Many countries and cultures have holidays devoted to gratitude. Americans and Canadians celebrate Thanksgiving, though not on the same dates. It is an opportunity for us to pause and acknowledge our countries’ heritage and all we – collectively and individually – have to be thankful for. Ideally, we should be doing this every day of our lives, but sometimes business and busyness crowd out <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/gratitudes-gift" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">gratitude</a>.Throughout my year of living kindly, I noticed over and over that kindness and gratitude go hand in hand and augment one another. This is never more evident to me as when I spend time in Nature. Whether I’m hiking, relaxing on my deck with its view of the Cascade Mountains, or strolling my neighborhood, I often feel my heart opening to the nature around me – the flight and song of birds, the vast variety of trees and the way they change with the seasons, the surge of the creek in winter and its lazy amble in summer, the deer that visit our yard to nibble on the fallen apples. These things make me want to give back to the Earth and to my community.I was attending a weekend conference in Pittsburgh during my year of living kindly. It was late May, and the weather was glorious. I had a free afternoon, so I walked to a nearby park and sat on a bench with a book. I divided my time between reading and appreciating the sights around me. The park was like a living organism – children playing on the lawn, couples strolling hand in hand, squirrels, dogs, flowers, and endless varieties of trees and birds. I remember feeling the overwhelming sense of how blessed I was to be able to experience it all – the park, the conference, the travel, the people I was meeting, and the ideas I was encountering. Gratitude filled every pore.After a while, I walked to a local restaurant and ordered lunch. From my seat, I could still see the activity of the park and the bustle of Pittsburgh’s busy streets. I asked the waitress to box up my fruit salad and the remaining half of my sandwich, thinking they would make a fine dinner. Walking back toward my hotel, I felt the fullness of my life and the amazing privilege of when, where, and how I am living. A block or so from my hotel, I noticed an elderly man slumped in a wheelchair. At his side was a can with a few coins in it and a small cardboard sign with lettering that said, ‘Please help’.<hr><h5 style="text-align:center;">Throughout my year of living kindly, I noticed over and over that kindness and gratitude go hand in hand and augment one another.</h5><hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/gratitude_compassion2_min_cdba7ae246.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T11:04:48.643Z">I stopped and greeted him. Then I said, “I have half a turkey sandwich here and some fruit salad. Would you like them?” His eyes widened and he said, “I surely would.” I handed the restaurant bag to him and reached into my purse for a couple of dollars, which I also handed him. We talked for a minute or two, and I noticed how his eyes held a lively twinkle. When I resumed my walk toward my hotel, I felt even lighter and happier than I had before. My brief interaction with the man had felt good. While I’m sure he appreciated the sandwich and the few dollars I handed him, I sensed that even more, he appreciated being seen. He was used to people averting their eyes, ignoring him as they quickly walked by, even occasionally dropping some change or a couple of dollars into his can but then rushing off without a word. The gratitude I had been feeling opened me to extending a <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/prayer-from-meditation" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">kindness</a> and offering not just the gift of food or money, but the gift of my genuine attention. There was no question in my mind, though, that I had received the greater gift that afternoon.I saw that when I am in touch with my gratitude, kindness flows naturally and effortlessly. If kindness feels hard to summon, I’ve learned that taking a moment to appreciate my surroundings, my friends and loved ones, or little things that fill me with delight, inspires a surge of kindness.I’ve come to see that there are many ways that kindness and gratitude together produce almost alchemical results.<h4 style="text-align:justify;">SLOWING DOWN</h4>Both gratitude and kindness ask us to slow down. Slowing down isn’t always easy in our overscheduled and overactive lives. I often feel like I’m rushing from one deadline to the next, one obligation to the next, ruled by a lengthy to-do list. But slowing down is essential if we are to notice and appreciate the sunrise, the crocuses bursting forth, the birds circling overhead like ice-skaters with wings. And slowing down is essential if we are to notice the smile on the cashier’s face, the door held open for us, or the myriad opportunities before us each day to extend our own kindnesses.<hr><h5 style="text-align:center;">I’ve learned that taking a moment to appreciate my surroundings, my friends and loved ones, or little things that fill me with delight, inspires a surge of kindness.</h5><hr><h4 style="text-align:justify;">AN OPEN HEART</h4>When I experience gratitude, my heart feels open. It is a feeling of abundance and sufficiency. This is all I need. It is also a feeling of presence – what happened five minutes ago doesn’t matter, and what will happen five minutes from now doesn’t matter. I am in the moment.Likewise, the experience of kindness – whether given, received, or even just witnessed – opens my heart and allows me to feel fully present in the moment. For that brief moment, kindness is all that matters. It reminds me of one of my very favorite quotes, by Henry James: “Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.”Abundance is also a companion of kindness. If we believe we are enough, we can easily believe we have enough. Both of these beliefs help us to reserve judgment and extend kindness. And that sense of abundance, whether related to gratitude or kindness – or most likely, both – inspires us to be generous with our time, our words, our deeds, and our resources.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/gratitude_compassion3_min_1aab042a9c.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T11:05:58.111Z"><h4 style="text-align:justify;">NEGATIVE EMOTIONS</h4>I’ve found that it’s difficult to be angry or fearful when one experiences gratitude. If my heart is grateful, I feel no need to summon ire if I am cut off in traffic or spoken to harshly. I’m less likely to be frightened by a new or daunting situation. Perhaps there’s simply no space for these emotions when I am filled with gratitude, or maybe gratitude has a way of neutralizing the effects of these negative emotions.This belief is often challenged when I hear about the most recent terrorist attack or the latest mass shooting. Those events spawn fear and anger, not just in the people directly affected, but in people all over the world. While there may also be gratitude that one’s family and friends were spared, and gratitude for the outpouring of support for the victims, can gratitude completely rout the fear and anger? I think not. But maybe there can be moments when gratitude at least overrides fear and lets us see that there is much to appreciate, even in the midst of terror attacks, natural disasters, or personal catastrophe. Maybe it’s gratitude that helps us recover from the worst things that can befall us.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/gratitude_compassion4_min_d36e8086db.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T11:08:22.710Z"><h4 style="text-align:justify;">SERVICE TO THE PLANET</h4>When we are grateful for something, our instinct is to protect and defend it. If we stand in awe at the edge of the ocean, or if we marvel at the canopy of trees above us as we hike through the nearby hills, our natural desire is to shield them from harm, to assure that they will always be there for us and for future generations to appreciate. Our gratitude puts us in service to life – what could be more important?Kindness, too, places us in service to life. We feel a physical connection to our surroundings and to the people around us when we engage in kind acts. Both the acts and the sense of connection are our acknowledgment that the ultimate kindness is to honor the earth and our fellow inhabitants – human and otherwise. A healthy planet and sustainable practices are the kindest gifts we can offer one another and the generations that follow us.<h4 style="text-align:justify;">GRATITUDE PRACTICES</h4>It’s lovely if gratitude comes to us frequently and effortlessly, but that is not always the case. Gratitude, like kindness, tennis, or piano-playing, is strengthened with practice. The more we do it, the more we experience it, and the better we become at expressing it. If you do an online search for ‘gratitude practices’ you will find countless suggestions, from daily meditation, to keeping a gratitude journal, to prayer. I try to spend a few moments each morning before I get up thinking about the things I have to be grateful for. Another creative approach is to create ‘trigger’ occasions that you use to establish a habit of gratitude. For example, every time you stop at a red light, use the moment to think of something you’re grateful for.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/gratitude_compassion5_min_d9dbd603c0.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T11:07:21.169Z">There’s another splendid gratitude practice that I love and practice occasionally. Physician and teacher Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen teaches this exercise that she learned from anthropologist Angeles Arrien. It’s simple and takes very little time. Here’s all you do:At the end of each day, sit down for a few minutes and answer these questions:What surprised me today? What moved or touched me today? What inspired me today?<hr><h5 style="text-align:center;">When I experience gratitude, my heart feels open. It is a feeling of abundance and sufficiency. This is all I need.</h5><hr>Your answers can be just a few words. What you’re trying to do is summon the memory of things that moved you.As Dr. Remen describes, “The most interesting thing happens, then. Often people are surprised eight or nine hours after something happens when they look back on it deliberately. But [by doing this exercise] that gap shortens until eventually they are able to see in the very moment what surprises them, what touches them, and what inspires them. And then everything changes. The world has not changed, but they have begun to be able to see the world, and they can communicate that experience. … It changes everything. It’s a question of paying attention.”It’s true. At first this is difficult. You may come up blank day after day. “Nothing surprised me,” or “Nothing inspired me.” But if you keep searching, you will think of something. “Oh, yes, I was touched when I saw those children playing in the park.” And just as Dr. Remen says, with practice you begin to notice things that touch or surprise or inspire you the moment they happen. That creates an enduring state of gratitude, not to mention presence.<h4 style="text-align:justify;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/gratitude_compassion6_min_2e808fe895.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T11:10:08.765Z"></h4>One of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is taking the time to think about what we are grateful for – both the obvious and the small, hidden, even quirky things that enrich life. Daily recognition of the multitude of big and little things we have to be grateful for is a wonderful way to live in perpetual thanksgiving.<h4 style="text-align:justify;">KINDNESS IN ACTION</h4>Make an effort to say ‘thank you’ more often in your daily interactions, and when you say it, mean it.If you don’t already have one, think about a daily gratitude practice that will work for you – a gratitude journal, a few moments of reflection, a trigger activity, perhaps Rachel Remen’s simple exercise – then try it for three weeks. Notice whether it changes your awareness of how many things there are in your life to be grateful for. Notice also if it makes you more aware of kindness – your own and others’.If you find yourself in a situation that may provoke anger or fear, try summoning gratitude to counteract their effects. Talk about gratitude with your family. Perhaps make it a game at the dinner table, or when you’re on a long drive, to name all the things you have to be grateful for.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Article by DONNA CAMERON</h4><hr>

Gratitude is a companion to kindness

<h4>DONNA CAMERON explores the beauty that vulnerability brings and its connection
 with kindness. She also shares her own personal experience of vulnerability and how it has changed her life for the
 better.</h4>
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A gift is like a seed; it is not an impressive
 thing. 
 It is what can grow from the seed that is impressive. 
 If we wait until our seed becomes a tree before we offer it, 
 we will wait and wait, and the seed will die from lack of planting.
 … 
 The miracle is not just the gift;&nbsp;the
 miracle is in the offering, 
 for if we do not offer, who will?

—WAYNE MULLER
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In high-tech parlance, vulnerability refers to a weakness or flaw that allows an
 attacker to access a computer without the owner’s permission. In human terms, vulnerability describes our
 susceptibility to being wounded or injured, and also the state of being exposed – to danger, illness, or criticism.
 For many of us, vulnerability implies weakness. It is something to be avoided.
But is it? Vulnerability may be our way of opening ourselves to the world, and trusting
 that it is not against us. It may be our way of embracing mystery and not pushing the unknown or the unseen away
 from us. It may be the truest way of saying “yes” to our lives.
In a relationship, we may be vulnerable when we are first to say “I love you,” or when
 we admit we don’t know something, or that we need help. Our comfort and security are threatened by the “power” we
 believe we have given the other person. Will he say he loves me back? Will she take advantage of my weakness if I
 ask for help? Yes, those fears are real. But another way to look at them is to recognize the strength they reveal
 and to take ownership of that strength. There is no shame in loving, even if the other person doesn’t love me back.
 There is no shame in asking for help, even if it isn’t given. The weakness is in burying our feelings or denying our
 need.
Dr. Brené Brown, research professor at the University of Houston, describes how
 vulnerability is a trait that wholehearted people share. As she explains in a remarkable TED Talk and in her
 audiobook, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings on Authenticity, Connection, and Courage, vulnerability is
 the courage to be imperfect, to do something where there are no guarantees, and to let go of who we think we should
 be in order to be what we really are. With this willingness, we “allow ourselves to be seen,” with all our
 imperfections, in order to fully embrace our lives. Dr. Brown further explains that many of us erroneously believe
 that we can selectively numb our emotions; that we can stifle grief, shame, fear, and disappointment while fully
 retaining our joy, gratitude, and happiness. It doesn’t work that way. If we suppress the negative emotions, we do
 the same to the positive ones. Accepting our vulnerability and living wholeheartedly means understanding that the
 good, the bad, and even the ugly are what make us authentic and beautiful. That place of vulnerability, she says, is
 the birthplace of joy, creativity, belonging, and love.
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Whether we’re committing to love, or art, or business, or kindness, we must have the courage to do it wholeheartedly,
 in spite of the fact that we know there will always be those who find us lacking. Knowing this is incredibly
 freeing! We can’t please everyone. Not ever. So we need to stop trying and focus instead on being who we are meant
 to be.
The more I think about it, the more deeply I see the connection between kindness and vulnerability. I’ve talked
 before about the difference between being kind and being nice. Nice does not require me to be vulnerable. I can be
 nice without risk, and without exposing too much of myself. I can be nice without making a connection, or without
 really caring whether or not you benefit from the encounter. Nice, while pleasant, doesn’t require sincerity or
 commitment. When I’m nice, I remain safe, guarded from exposure.
Kind is very different. Kind means connecting; it means being aware and intentional about the impact my words and
 actions have; it means expending energy and effort, and caring about the outcome. It means exposing my truest self
 in all my imperfections. It also means suspending judgments and accepting people as they are. Kind can be messy, and
 it may take me to places where I am awkward, clumsy, and tongue-tied. Kindness requires me to take risks. In short,
 kindness requires me to be vulnerable.
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Since making a commitment to living kindly, I have tried to replace nice with kind. The distinction may not have been
 noticeable to anyone but me. But my noticing it is really all that matters. Whether acknowledging someone’s
 assistance, explaining a new process, or giving a couple of dollars to someone in need, I try to make a connection,
 even if it’s only fleeting. Taking the time to make eye contact, exchange a few words, and convey that I see a
 person and recognize their value – these small actions convey our shared humanity and our shared vulnerability. It
 feels good.
My upbringing – and I suspect I am not alone in this – was one where I was encouraged to be smart. Grades were
 important to my parents, and I was rewarded for good ones. Poor grades (that is, anything less than an A) were a
 disappointment, and I dreaded the thought of disappointing my parents. Being smart and being right became important
 to my identity. School and career generally reinforced the importance of those qualities. There came a point,
 though, when I started to see that I wasn’t always smart, and I certainly wasn’t always right. At first, this felt
 threatening. If I admit how little I know about this subject or this new technology, will people assume I’m
 ignorant? Will I be giving up some imaginary advantage I have? It took both courage and a willingness to be
 vulnerable to start saying, “I don’t understand,” or “Please show me how this works.” It took even more to ask to be
 shown again when the first lesson didn’t “take.”
Rather than judging me harshly, I saw that people welcomed my questions. They appreciated the opportunity to share
 knowledge in areas where they excelled. I learned to ask questions that deepened my understanding. I breathed a sigh
 of relief that I was not expected to know everything, understand everything, or always be right. I didn’t have to
 fake knowledge I didn’t have. I was surrounded by smart people and, in aggregate, we were very, very smart. The
 other thing I saw when I was willing to show my vulnerability and admit my ignorance or inexperience was that others
 seemed more comfortable coming to me to either ask my help or admit when they needed help. 
 I think it must be very lonely to feel you must always have the answers or be the smartest person in the room.
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<h5 style="text-align: center;">To make that deep connection, 
 we have to allow ourselves to be seen. 
 That means having the courage to be imperfect, 
 to expose our flaws, 
 and the willingness to be vulnerable.
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There is even a vulnerability to writing or speaking about kindness, and inviting people to read or hear my thoughts.
 Sharing my deepest thoughts – what matters most to me – opens me to their judgment, perhaps to criticism. Beyond
 that, am I saying too much about myself? Too little? Am I pontificating (oh, I hope not!)? Has it all been said
 before and said better? Am I missing the point entirely?
If I allow myself to be vulnerable, the answer is that it doesn’t matter. As Brené Brown eloquently explains,
 connection is why we’re all here, sharing this planet, and it’s what gives meaning and purpose to our lives.
You may feel awkward, exposed, or uncomfortable when you first start heeding the call to kindness. Good! That means
 you’ve tapped into your vulnerability. Embrace it, and keep allowing your kindness to grow.
Living our most authentic life, whatever that means to each of us, requires that we let go of our shield and lower
 our guard, and that we embrace our flaws and our vulnerability. For me – and perhaps for you – it’s choosing
 kindness. It’s scary, but the rewards of living an authentic life are beyond measure.
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<h3 style="text-align: center;">Kindness in Action</h3>
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 src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/Kindness4_ba06e48490.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-07T14:04:23.353Z">Can you think of a time when you felt vulnerable? Recall the situation and your
 response.
Did you back away to “safety”? Or did you forge ahead?
Either way, try to imagine the outcome of the situation had you done the opposite of
 what you did. Maybe it feels better, or maybe worse, but can you feel the strength of your response when you
 accept your vulnerability?
Think about the you that most people see: Is that person authentic and real, or are you
 projecting only what you think they want to see, or what you feel safe allowing to be seen?
What is your relationship to perfection? Do you strive for it, or do you recognize that
 perfection is a myth that keeps us from being the interesting, contradictory, and often messy human beings that
 we all are at our core?
Are there messages you received as a child that no longer serve you but that you
 continue to hold onto?
If you’re a parent, do the messages your children receive encourage them to be
 authentic and vulnerable, or to strive for impossible perfection?
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If you haven’t seen Brené Brown’s TED Talk, make yourself a cup of tea and google it. It will be a very worthwhile
 twenty minutes!
Reprinted with permission from the author, from her book, A Year of Living
 Kindly.
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<h4 style="text-align: center;">Article by DONNA CAMERON 
 Illustrations by JASMEE RATHOD</h4>
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Kindness and vulnerability

Dorit is a German filmmaker, producer, and author, who first traveled to India to meet Babuji in 1978. She has been a Heartfulness practitioner and trainer for over 40 years.

Dorit Vaarning

<hr><h4>DORIT VAARNING first traveled to India to meet Ram Chandra of Shahjahanpur in 1978. She shares some of her experiences of being with this humble, insignificant being, who is known to many as Babuji.</h4><hr>It is a bit difficult to tell stories about Babuji, because I have the feeling that my stories tell more about myself than about him. For, after all, who is he? What I could see was only what I was capable of realizing, and what he permitted me to see.The second time I visited him, his head became transparent to me and inside I saw planets moving, following their courses according to the cosmic law. It was like looking into a watch. And though this vision was limited to the inside of his head, I was gazing, like through a window, into the unlimited universe itself. The following time I came to Babuji, I saw his head like an open bowl in which there was nothing.I remember one day he was sitting in his chair with a big flock of people around him, filling the terrace. I came late, and since the only place left was at his feet, I was ordered to sit there. Then we started to ask questions. I asked, “What is love?” Babuji created a beautiful image for us: “Love is what is alive when a flower blooms, and will never come again when the flower closes.” The second part of this definition disturbed me deeply, so I asked, “But does love have to go away? Can it also stay?” Babuji looked down at me tenderly and said softly, “Yes, it can come and stay forever.”<hr><h5 style="text-align:center;">Love is craving for Reality. Opening yourself to Reality and Divinity is love.</h5><hr>Then Babuji gave his final definition: “Love is craving for Reality. Opening yourself to Reality and Divinity is love.”After some time I asked, “What is grace?” Again those soft tender eyes met mine and he said with a smile, “Grace is sweetness of mind.” My heart melted in the love of his eyes, and I could only sigh. Babuji seemed to think over it again, and confirmed, “Yes, it is correct.”Then another question came to me: “Babuji, what is passion?” He answered as if making a rhyme, “Excitement in fashion is passion.” Then he put on a doubtful face, “It’s not correct,” he said. But then he came back to the same idea.“Babuji, what is sin?” “Improper adjustment of things.”Babuji was the most original, poetic and humorously meaningful person one can imagine. Once in Munich in 1980, I asked him, “Babuji, what about divine intoxication?” And he answered, “Well, I may not say anything against it, since I myself am a smoker!” Then after a while he asked me suddenly, “Why don’t you just jump into the infinite ocean?”One evening in Copenhagen, also in 1980, people had gathered in his bedroom to spend those cozy evening hours with him when generally he would be in the mood to talk. That evening he was sitting up in bed in front of everyone, totally ready for a conversation full of wisdom and laughter. But no word was being spoken. Babuji looked here and there, obviously up to something, but kept quiet.After some time, he looked around with an apologetic look: “No thought coming,” he exclaimed. Silence again all over. Suddenly, he rose up as if some event had happened. “That was a thought!” he exclaimed, and stared at something invisible, like gazing at a shooting star. This went on for a while, Babuji being in quite a humorous mood. Finally he remarked, with the most humble, timid look you can imagine, “A thought is a vibration from the Divine, not from such a low being like me.” And very small, with a shy smile, he lay down in his pillows.<hr><h5 style="text-align:center;">I asked him what saintliness was. He replied, “Gentlemanliness, humility. One who only gives and never asks for anything in return.”</h5><hr>During Babuji’s visit to South Africa in 1981, someone asked, “What is the correct behavior after one has hurt somebody?” He answered, “To be in yourself. That is something within.”“Should we avoid hurting others at all costs?” “Medium, moderation. Avoid giving trouble to others. That is a divine dictate. Not to hurt others is the greatest religion. I am not like a wasp that if somebody steps on it will sting. If somebody steps on me, I’ll be crushed and die. … you should never hurt the feelings of other hearts. You should play the defensive part, not the offensive one. When self is involved, defense is right.”<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/one_who_only_gives2_img_82b97e3236.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-12T07:16:30.028Z">During those last hours with him in South Africa, I asked him what saintliness was. He replied, “Gentlemanliness, humility. One who only gives and never asks for anything in return.”<hr>Excerpt from ‘All Was Drowned in Divinity’ from the book Tears &amp; Laughter : Encounters With a Spiritual Master, 1st edition, 1990, edited by A.J. Born, Shri Ram Chandra Mission, India.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Article by&nbsp;DORIT VAARNING</h4><hr>

One who only gives

DR ADRIAN COOPER

<hr><h4>A Fellow of the Royal Geographical Society and author of three successful books, including Sacred Mountains: Ancient Wisdom and Modern Meanings, DR ADRIAN COOPER has been fascinated with wildlife and conservation since early childhood. Here he recounts some of the experiences of pilgrims traveling to wilderness environments, and how it helps them to grow naturally.</h4><hr>Wilderness environments have fed the human imagination since the dawn of history. Today, mountains, forests, mangroves and other challenging natural places are the focus for pilgrimage journeys for increasing numbers of people from all over the world. While traditional pilgrimage destinations such as Rome or Jerusalem may not always satisfy a pilgrim’s search for solitude and sanctuary, mountains and forests often do so in glorious abundance, with many surprises along the way.Traditionally, sanctuaries have been thought of as simply places of reflection, meditation and prayer. However, in remote natural environments, that is only part of the story. On a mountain slope or deep in a forest, for example, pilgrims learn that rational knowledge of their new sanctuary is never enough. There is a need to seek more.As humankind finds its way through this bewildering new millennium, the greatest challenge facing each individual is to find ways of becoming spiritually reconciled to the sacred inspirations within this planet’s last remaining wilderness environments.For Harriot, a teacher from Seattle, Washington, her wilderness sanctuaries are most frequently discovered on Mount McKinley, often known by its Native American name of Denali. It is the highest peak in North America, and one of the most isolated mountains on Earth: “I love to go hiking on Denali… I can tell you that it is my one and only true sanctuary. It’s where I go to find my deepest meditations; I can pray there like no other place. And it’s where I feel I can grow in the most natural and organic way.”George, a software designer from London, UK, shares a very similar experience: “Walking in the Scottish Highlands is my true sanctuary. It distances me physically and emotionally from all the hassle and hypocrisy of modern living. Out there I can breathe and feel restored. It’s a sanctuary that I crave for, and which I need in my deepest soul.”There are also times when pilgrims reconcile their spiritual search with a personal scientific quest to understand local ecosystems, and to align them within their pilgrimage. This type of reconciliation between the spiritual and scientific aspects of wilderness sanctuaries is clearly described by Lucille, an artist from Rouen, France: “For me, and a lot of my family and friends, there can never be a limit put on spiritual growth. We must always grow in any way we can. I love to learn about wildlife. I keep my own journal, which combines my mystical experiences with my notes about counting birds or sketching the grasses and other plants.”In all these ways, wilderness environments offer pilgrims life-changing lessons in the sanctuaries they discovered. Consequently, these extraordinary individuals have learned to become more than who they were before their journeys began.<hr>&nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Article by DR ADRIAN COOPER</h4>&nbsp;<hr>

Sanctuaries in the wilderness

Dr Joe is a Doctor of Chiropractic, who trained in the fields of neuroscience and neuroplasticity, quantitative electroencephalogram (QEEG) measurements, epigenetics, mind-body medicine, and brain/heart coherence. As a researcher, lecturer, author, and corporate consultant, his interest lies in demystifying the mystical so that people have all the tools within their reach to make measurable changes in their lives. Dr Joe works on being the living example of everything he teaches. He also appreciates good food and wine, communing with nature, and being around highly creative people.

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DR JOE DISPENZA

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 DR. JOE DISPENZA shares some thoughts
 on heart-brain coherence and moving from thinking to knowing through the
 instrument of perception we know as the heart.
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 Since our human ancestors first began etching their histories upon cave
 walls and stone tablets, like a thread through the needle of time, the heart
 has appeared as a symbol to represent health, wisdom, intuition, guidance,
 and higher intelligence. The ancient Egyptians, who referred to the heart as
 ieb, believed the heart, rather than the brain, was the center of
 life and the source of human wisdom.We know that the heart, beyond its
 obvious role in sustaining life, is not simply a muscular pump that moves
 blood throughout our body but an organ capable of influencing feelings and
 emotions. The heart is a sensory organ that guides our decision-making
 ability as well as our understanding of ourselves and our place in the
 world. It’s a symbol that transcends time, place, and culture. It’s a
 commonly accepted premise that when we are connected to the heart’s inner
 knowing, we can tap into its wisdom as a source of love and higher
 guidance.


 Every thought you think produces corresponding chemistry equal to that
 thought, which in turn creates an emotion. Therefore, you are suggestible
 only to the thoughts equal to your emotional state. We now know that when
 our students are heart centered and feel more wholeness and oneness, they’re
 less separate from their dreams.


 When they feel gratitude, abundance, freedom, or love, all of those
 emotions welcome corresponding thoughts. Those heart-centered emotions open
 the door to the subconscious mind so that you can program your autonomic
 nervous system equal to the thoughts of your new future. We also know that
 if they live in the feeling of fear or lack but try to think they’re
 abundant, they can’t produce a measurable effect, because change can only
 happen when thoughts are in alignment with the emotional state of the body.
 They can think positively all they want, but without a corresponding feeling
 or emotion equal to that thought, the message cannot be felt or understood
 throughout the rest of the body.

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 Heart-centered emotions open the door 
 to the subconscious mind so that you can 
 program your autonomic nervous system 
 equal to the thoughts of your new future.
 


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 So you could repeat the affirmation I am fearless until you’re
 blue in the face, but if it’s fear you’re actually feeling, the
 thought I am fearless never makes it past the brain stem, which
 means you’re not signaling the body and ANS into a new, specific destiny.
 The feeling is what produces the emotional charge (energy) to stimulate your
 ANS into a different destiny. Without the feeling, a disconnect remains
 between your brain and body – between the thought of health and the feeling
 of health – and you can’t embody that new state of being.


 It’s only when you change your energy that you can produce more consistent
 effects. If you sustain these elevated emotions on a daily basis, eventually
 your body, in its innate intelligence, begins to make relative genetic
 changes in the way I described earlier. That’s because the body believes
 that the emotion you are embracing is coming from an experience in your
 environment. So when you open your heart center, practice feeling an emotion
 before the experience occurs, and marry it with a clear intention, the body
 responds as if it’s in the future experience. That heart-mind coherence then
 influences your body chemistry and energy in a series of ways.


 If coherence between the heart and the brain can originate in the heart,
 and their synchronization results in optimal performance and health, then
 you should be taking time every day to focus on activating your heart
 center. By intentionally choosing to feel the elevated emotions of the heart
 rather than waiting for something outside of yourself to elicit those
 emotions, you become who you are truly meant to be – a heart-empowered
 individual. When you are living by the heart, you naturally choose love and
 innately demonstrate it through compassion and care for the well-being of
 yourself, others, and planet Earth. Through our partnership with HMI, our
 students have demonstrated that with practice, we can in fact produce,
 regulate, and sustain elevated feelings and emotions – independent of events
 in our external world.

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 In our workshops around the world, through the practice of regulating heart
 rhythms to sustain elevated emotions, we teach our students how to generate
 heart and brain coherence. We then measure their abilities using HRV (heart
 rate variability) monitors. During guided meditations, we ask our students
 to surrender to the feelings of gratitude, joy, and love, and we encourage
 daily practice outside of our formal instruction, because when one chooses
 to practice sitting in a state of coherence, it becomes a habit.


 I hope that with enough practice, our students can replace old mental
 scripts of feeling unworthy, fearful, or insecure with more elevated states
 of being and fall deeply in love with their lives. We’ve seen enough of them
 demonstrate that it is indeed possible to produce positive, measurable,
 tangible effects in their lives simply by shifting the paradigm of their
 thoughts and feelings. These dedicated individuals return to their homes,
 where the positive effects they’ve produced in their own lives ripple out to
 positively affect their families and communities, continuously expanding
 their vibrational influence of harmony and coherence throughout the
 world.


 By repeatedly practicing the regulation of heightened emotional states, in
 time the constant feeling of elevated emotions creates a new emotional
 baseline. This baseline then begins to continuously influence a new set of
 thoughts equal to the heightened feelings. The summation of those novel
 thoughts creates a new level of mind, which then produces more corresponding
 emotions equal to those thoughts, further sustaining that baseline. When
 this feedback loop between the heart (body) and mind (brain) occurs, you are
 in an entirely new state of being – the consciousness of the unlimited mind
 and the energy of profound love and gratitude. The repetition of this
 process is what it means to recondition your body, rewire your brain, and
 reconfigure your biology equal to your new state of being. Now you are
 naturally, automatically, and regularly broadcasting a different
 electromagnetic signature of energy into the field. This is who you are, or
 who you have become.

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 Countless history books could be written through the lens of incoherent
 emotions. Whether the result is a Shakespearean tragedy, genocide, or a
 world war, survival emotions such as blame, hate, rage, competition, and
 retribution have resulted in an endless, unnecessary trail of pain,
 suffering, oppression, and death. The results have caused humans to live in
 opposition and conflict rather than in peace and harmony. This is a time in
 history when we can break that cycle. This is a pivotal moment in the story
 of humanity where ancient wisdom and modern science are intersecting to
 provide us with the technology and scientific understanding to learn not
 only how to more efficiently and effectively manage our emotions, but also
 what that means for our health, relationships, energy levels, and personal
 and collective evolution. It doesn’t require moving mountains – only
 changing our internal state of being. This allows us to alter the way we act
 with one another, replacing stressful situations with positive experiences
 that give us energy, fill our spirit, and leave us with a sense of
 wholeness, connection, and unity. The brain may think, but when you turn
 your heart into an instrument of perception, it knows.

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 Excerpt reprinted with permission from
 Becoming Supernatural: How Common People Are Doing the Uncommon by
 Dr. Joe Dispenza. 
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Living heart centered

Dr Nandi MD FACP is the creator and host of the medical lifestyle television show, ‘Ask Dr. Nandi’, available in syndication on the DISH Network and DirecTV, and in multiple countries around the world. Dr Nandi is also the Chief Health Editor at WXYZ (ABC) Detroit, USA, a practicing physician and a renowned international speaker.

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Dr Partha Nandi

<h4>DR PARTHA NANDI explores the relationship between a healthy lifestyle and how it affects the expression of our DNA and resulting health. He especially focuses on the benefits of Yoga and other traditions – both the meditative practices and the physical movement – in achieving a healthier life.</h4>From a young age, I knew that I wanted to create a world full of Health Heroes. These are people who make their health a priority and commit to achieving greater health and happiness. Two of the best ways to achieve a healthier life are through movement and spirituality. Each is an important tool in our fight against disease and premature death.Two of the most effective and fun ways to use these tools is through the practices of meditation and Yoga.When you make them a part of your daily routine, you’re rewarded with improved physical and mental well-being. They not only transform and strengthen your body, but also sharpen and condition your mind.This makes them powerful allies to any Health Hero committed to living a healthy and fulfilling lifeAnd it gets better. In addition to the many health benefits that we already know about, new research is showing that these mind-body practices can actually change your genes.<h4>MIND-BODY PRACTICES ARE CAUSING YOU TO CHANGE ON THE CELLULAR LEVEL</h4>The way you live affects you right down to your genetic level. Your stress levels, social surroundings, nutritional habits, physical activity and overall lifestyle all contribute to how your genes express themselves, and how your cells respond to their changing environment.How you cultivate your mind is no exception. New research findings show that the benefits of mind-body practices, including meditation and Yoga, actually begin on the cellular level. Through these practices, you have the ability and power to change your gene expression.More specifically, meditation and Yoga can change how your DNA responds to stress. And considering that stress is a silent killer that creeps up on us and significantly elevates our risk of disease and premature death, this is especially exciting.<h4>WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENS?</h4>When we’re exposed to a stressful situation, our ‘fight or flight’ response is triggered. This response increases the production of NF-kB, which regulates how our genes are expressed and causes dangerous inflammation on a cellular level. According to research published in Frontiers in Immunology, people who practice mind-body interventions like Yoga, meditation and Tai Chi have the opposite experience of the fight or flight response: there is a decrease in the production of NF-kB and a reversal of the inflammatory gene.Basically, this means that meditation and Yoga don’t simply relax you, but also might actually have the ability to reverse molecular reactions to stress in your DNA that can lead to poor health, disease and depression.<h4>YOU ARE NOT YOUR GENES</h4>Let’s mention the obvious. You can’t control everything that happens to you. You’re going to deal with stress and health challenges. But when you take advantage of the power you do have, you give yourself every possible opportunity to live your best and healthiest life. And these new findings have created a shift, putting some newfound power into your hands.<h4>USE YOUR POWER WISELY</h4>Imagine how your life could change if you took advantage of every drop of power you have to transform your health – right down to the genetic level. How might committing to 10 to 20 minutes a day of meditation change your life? What would you do differently with improved health, less stress and anxiety, more focus and a greater sense of purpose? You’d probably be able to enjoy life in entirely new ways.<h4>BE A HEALTH HERO</h4>I encourage you to take advantage of the ability to alter your genes for improved wellness. The game is now changed, and you have more possibilities than ever to transform your biology and heal your body. Take time every day to practice meditation, breathe deeply and commit to greater health and longevity.Make healthy living a part of every day.The light in me honors the light in you. Namaste.Dr NandiBook link: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Ask-Dr-Nandi-HealthHero-Well- Being/dp/1501156810/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid= 1504980266&amp;sr=81&amp;keywords=ask+dr+nandi" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.amazon.com/Ask-Dr-Nandi-HealthHero-Well- Being/dp/1501156810/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid= 1504980266&amp;sr=81&amp;keywords=ask+dr+nandi</a>In the August issue of Health Hero Magazine, we share the raw and inspiring story of how the power of meditation and Yoga changed the life of Health Hero, Nikki Panfil in ‘Healing Invisible Wounds With Yoga’ : <a href="https://askdrnandi.com/health-hero-magazinehealing- invisible-wounds-with-yoga/." target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://askdrnandi.com/health-hero-magazinehealing- invisible-wounds-with-yoga/.</a><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Article by PARTHA NANDI</h4><hr>

Yoga and meditation can change your genetics

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<h5>DR PARTHA NANDI encourages us all to make use of this new field in nutritional
 research: harnessing the power of food to change our genes and improve our health.</h5>
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From a young age, I knew that I wanted to create a world full of Health Heroes. These
 are the people who make their health a priority and commit to achieving greater health and happiness.
One of the best ways to achieve a healthier life is through good nutrition. Your
 nutritional choices play a big part in your overall health, and that’s why it is so important to nourish your body
 with healthy foods. Food is powerful. It can fight off depression, boost your mood and even help prevent cancer and
 other illnesses. Food is medicine, and when you use food this way, you’re committing to a beneficial lifestyle
 change.
This makes healthy nutrition an important tool in our fight against disease and obesity.
 It’s arguably a Health Hero’s most powerful ally in the quest for a long and healthy life because what we eat can
 actually change our genes and transform our biology.
<h4>NEW RESEARCH IS CHANGING THE GAME</h4>
Each day brings new evidence on how our life choices affect us right down to our genetic
 level. Our stress levels, social surroundings, physical activity and overall lifestyle all contribute to our gene
 expression – or how our cells respond to their changing environment.
What we eat is no exception. The nutrients in our food interact with our genes. The
 study of this interaction is known as nutrigenomics. It’s changing everything. Where we once thought we were
 powerless, we now have at least some control.
The ability of nutrition to affect our genes means that we’re no longer at the mercy of
 our DNA. This is especially exciting when it comes to fighting and preventing disease.
<h4>WE ARE NOT OUR GENES</h4>
Let’s mention the obvious. We can’t control everything that happens to us. We are going
 to face health challenges and adversity. But when we take advantage of the power we do have, we give ourselves every
 possible opportunity to live our best and healthiest life.
Nutrigenomics is creating a power shift, putting some newfound power into our hands.
 What does this mean? Think about inherited diseases like heart disease, obesity, diabetes, cancer and Alzheimer’s.

If these, or other inherited diseases, run in your family, you’re not doomed to suffer.
 The fate of your health is not set in stone. If your mother is diabetic, it’s not a given that you’ll eventually
 become a diabetic.
Again, we don’t have absolute control. If that were the case, we’d all eat healthy food
 and never fall sick. However, what we choose to eat can significantly increase or reduce our risk of future illness.

<h4>USE YOUR POWER WISELY</h4>
Imagine how your life would change if you took advantage of every drop of power you have
 to transform your health, right down to the genetic level. Would you commit to making convenient and realistic
 nutritional changes? Would you feel less anxious or enjoy a greater sense of purpose knowing that you’re stepping up
 and taking action to improve your chances of a longer and healthier life? You might find yourself enjoying life more
 than ever before.
<h4>PRESCRIPTIONS FOR BETTER NUTRITION</h4>
Make the commitment to nourish your body with good nutrition every day. Even small,
 manageable changes will put you on the right path. Your doctor can make recommendations based on your unique
 requirements, but whole and natural foods, healthy fats, lean proteins, balance and moderation, are great places to
 start. The more you practice making good nutritional choices, the greater impact you’ll have on your health.
I encourage you to use food as medicine and take advantage of the power to alter your
 genes for improved wellness. The fate of your health is not set in stone. You have the ability to transform your
 biology and change your health journey. Be your own Health Hero by taking advantage of this and prioritizing your
 commitment to greater health and longevity.
The light in me honors the light in you. Namaste.
Dr Nandi
<h6>For more information, visit <a href="https://www.askdrnandi.com/">askdrnandi.com.</a></h6>
<h6>Inspired to learn more about the super powers of foods? Receive Dr Nandi’s Superfoods Cookbook for free <a
 href="https://askdrnandi.com/cookbook/">here.</a> 
 Dr Nandi’s shares in his Superfoods Cookbook the nutritional benefits of 10 of his favorite superfoods and
 some delicious recipes to start cooking with him today.</h6>
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Nutrigenomics

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<h4>In the first of a series of articles, DR PARTHA NANDI shares something of his own story and why he became so
 passionate about health.</h4>
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<h4>MY LIFE CHANGING DECISION</h4>
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 nearly died when I was six years old. I was a normal kid running wild and having fun with my family and friends.
 Even at that young age, I had a real passion for life. I loved school, sports, music and practically anything that
 engaged my curiosity and creativity. Then one day, I started suffering from joint pain bad enough that I could no
 longer do the active things that I loved. Seemingly overnight, I went from a fearless kid running wild and free to
 one who had lost interest in everything. I didn’t even want to eat.
Fast forward through time and multiple visits to the doctor, when my mother insisted on
 finding a specialist. That’s when I finally met the man (and doctor) who I will never forget.
It turns out I had rheumatic fever, a potentially life threatening disease of the joints
 and heart. During my hospital stay, this unforgettable doctor saved my life with his knowledge, skill, strength and
 compassion. He was a superhero. My parents, the way they stepped up for me and cared for me, were superheroes. And I
 wanted to be just like them. They were my very first Health Heroes.
<h4>SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO BE YOUR OWN HERO</h4>
I was only six, but I knew what I wanted to do with my life. I wanted to save people who
 were sick and afraid. I wanted to make them strong so that they could be their own heroes. Forget the capes and
 x-ray vision. Having the power to be your own hero! This was exciting to me.
It’s what drives me to this day. I want to create a world full of Health Heroes. I want
 you to realize the power you have to take charge of your health and live your best life. That’s what being a Health
 Hero is all about. And you can do it! You can make your health a priority. It’s not selfish, and it’s not even
 difficult.
The moment you recognize that your health matters and you start to implement important
 life changes is the exact moment you start to become your own Health Hero. You just have to be willing to jump into
 the driver’s seat and take control.
You can’t control everything that happens to you. You’re going to face challenges and
 adversity. But you can take advantage of the power you do have so that you can live your best life. Make your health
 a priority. Be kind to yourself. Nurture yourself. Live the healthy, active and spiritual life you deserve. You can
 be your own hero! No cape or x-ray vision required.
Make healthy living a part of every day. 
 The light in me honors the light in you. 
 Namaste.
PS I’m releasing a book in September that I’ve been working hard (and passionately) to
 complete. I’m sharing with you my very best practices for living a healthier and happier life. I go deep
 into the five key areas on which you should focus in order to infuse your life with better health and nourish your
 soul with more joy. I hope to inspire you to become your own Health Hero. Just as my parents and one unforgettable
 doctor inspired me.
<h4 style="text-align: left;">PARTHA’S PRESCRIPTION</h4>
Recognize that your health is the most important thing. Give yourself permission to make
 your health a priority.
Advocate. Speak up and ask questions.
Don’t be afraid to have an in-depth discussion with your doctor. Be an active part of any
 decision making process. Whether for yourself, or someone you love, your involvement is key.
Become your own Health Hero.
Take action whenever and however you can. Make your health a priority so that you can
 enjoy a happier, healthier life!
<h6>For more information and to pre-order Dr Nandi’s new book, Ask Dr Nandi: 5 Steps to Becoming Your Own Health
 Hero, please visit https://askdrnandi.com/health-book/.</h6>


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